4. Exploration
Mandatory confinement, self-isolation, sometimes felt like desertion and exile. Having to deal and confront ourselves and the real state of our mental health, every damn day. There were many ways to go: people went into overdrive, suddenly becoming super productive, taking courses, working out, dieting, reading, etc. Some of us shut down and needed to unwind, feel as if they don’t need to do anything. Many of us lost job opportunities, deferred university decisions, some of us didn’t move to cities or countries we were supposed to. We’ve lost so much, but hopefully we’ve managed to self-examine at least a little, as it was probably the only mandatory self-reflection time we will get for a while. We have been given the chance to ask ourselves: Who do we want to be? What do we want to do?, and confront it every day. A task which is far from easy.
What surprised me most about the realization that this year is going to end, is that I’m not ready for it. It seemed to go on forever and yet, there’s beauty in chaos. Or perhaps deep down, we’re just scared that next year might be worse (oops). Maybe we are scared that we are not gonna have a year like this again, there is a part that got attached to this new normal. We have become scared of closeness, of intimacy; we were kept at distance and there is no way that didn’t influence our psychological reaction to being together. While the truth is that we will be able to hug each other again, I’m wondering how long it will take me to get used to the fact that being close is normal, human and needed. I’m still at a point where, when I see a group film scene, I cringe at how many people there are in the room.
In the end, it turned out to be one of the most revolutionary years of my life. A year that taught me the most about myself, who I am, who I want to be. A year that taught me about friendships and allowed me to remove fake and toxic people out of my life. It motivated me to spend time with my family, my loved ones, to really give them the attention I otherwise couldn’t have given, because I would be off somewhere, chasing something. It forced me to confront what I really want to do in life. For all the above I am grateful. What I can hope and wish for is that everybody asks themselves these questions: What has this year given you? What has it taken away from you? How do you want to continue? What are you grateful for?