If you’ve been following our publication for a while, you probably know that we do not write about style that often. You also probably didn’t think you’d read an article about it during a time where nobody wears anything but pyjamas and the occasional dress shirt paired with no pants so that you look presentable on Zoom calls. Surprised? Thought so. But I am here to make a case for experimentation as the key ingredient for finding your style. And what better time to experiment than when you’re stuck at home with nothing better to do and nobody to see the hideous outfits you come up with before you get it “right”?
When it comes to my style, if you caught me on one of my good days and asked me to describe it, I’d say that I’m an elegant perfectionist that loves to look like she didn’t try at all; a bit easy, a bit lazy and a bit sensual. However, you can be sure of one thing, and that is that I’m not this nice to myself on a daily basis. Just like all of us, I have days that my full-to-the-brim closet looks empty, my favorite items look ugly and my body seems to not be flattered by anything I own. And that’s normal. It is often indicative of a period of change and transformation, or it is simply another bad day. Regardless of that, I can say that over the past year, my sense of style has certainly gotten much stronger, and I have grown to know myself a lot better through the journey of defining my taste and identity. I’ve come to believe that you can’t really “do your own thing” unless you know who you are. There is a very delicate kind of merger between your clothes and your personality, a give and take between who you are and what you’re wearing. Style really has to do with being able to perceive what is best for you; taking care to really analyse just the way something really looks. It’s about finding out what you like and feel good wearing and hanging on to it.
“But why does it matter?”, you might wonder. Well, fashion is actually a really distinctive part of all of our lives. Each of us, each day makes a decision about what we’re going to wear, both what it looks like and what we do with it. Your personal style is the image of yourself you choose to present to the world, and it is indicative of your personality, familiarity with pop culture and ability to piece a look together. And last time I checked, you don’t discuss a De Kooning as often as you get dressed to leave the house. Juliet Shore, a well-known social scientist, talks about fashion as being an essential element of being human. “We are one of the only species that can actually change our skin on a daily basis. We can actually use these ideas around materials to really connect us as social beings. And we know from the luxury fashion industry just how delightful it is to be able to wear something that makes you feel great. It's a piece of art on your body. It's got the skills of craftsmanship involved in it. And yet real beauty has to come through a deeper understanding. Finding your style means finding who you are and being faithful to that person”, she says in an interview for style bible Cheap Chic.
Unfortunately, people today want approval for the way they dress, which is the kiss of death. Our sense of individuality is a lot weaker, and our desire to be liked and accepted (especially on social media) is at an all-time high. That is awful news for our style, since it means we are more inclined than ever to sacrifice our personal taste and wear whatever the influencers and celebrities we follow are wearing. And despite our exposure to visual stimulation being at its maximum, in contrast to what some might expect, this has not done us any favours when it comes to the cultivation of a distinct, personal taste and visual language. So instead of having become a generation characterised by what is known as “bon goût”, we have become a generation of individuals incapable of distinguishing what they truly like from what Instagram and other social media platforms have told them to like. So how do you break the chain and discover your personal style? Sit tight and read below.
Don’t be afraid to experiment
Experimentation is a huge part of figuring out what you like and don’t like, but also what suits you and what doesn’t. Oftentimes things might look good on your Pinterest reference photo but end up looking a little less so when we try to recreate them, and that’s fine. Whoever said “you have to get it wrong before you get it right” knew what he was talking about. In order to find out what it is that you feel good wearing, you have to try wearing a bunch of different things. Inspiration is everywhere around you; from friends to travels, books, and icons, you can get ideas from practically everyone and everything. So take your phone out, go on your notes and start a file where you write down outfit ideas or details whenever they come to you. And then try them out! This will not only save you at times when you’re out of inspiration, but it will also give you the opportunity to try out styles, combinations, and ideas that at some point in time seemed appealing and you might have completely forgotten about otherwise.
Build a good collection of basics
I wholeheartedly believe in basics. Not just any basics though, they have to be basics that fit well. Jeans that mold on your body, and well-made staples with no “fashion” that last many years without transformation. Nothing can compare to a good pair of denim, especially a vintage one. Once you find a brand of jeans that fits you the way you like to be fit, stick with it. Another key basic that will make or break your closet? T-shirts. A t-shirt in different colors, prints, fits can get you through all seasons. Once you have a few in your drawer, you’ll understand the magic. Having a good collection of basics means peace of mind. Basic colors, good cuts, and nice quality can never disappoint you, and you are sure to never look bad. And the times you will look at your closet feeling helpless and convinced that there is nothing in there for you to wear will significantly decrease.