A look at a bigger problem
The situation is not an isolated case, not even for a whole country. Women in different parts of the world, for decades, have been reduced to a mosaiced persona, composed of many toxic stereotypes of femininity, and were forced to act according to particular societal expectations. As Aya herself states in one of her videos labeled “Cotton Girl'' - “ There are many things that a “perfect Kazakh girl” should be. The all-time favorite of traditional sexists is the “timid girl”: soft, feminine, and quiet. We are more than that”. Although particularly enforced in more traditional households, these views are far from being localized. The reasons behind making Kazakhstan the focus of her work, set aside an obvious fact that Aya is coming from there, can lay in the fact that while present in our state, these views are hardly challenged. On the bright side, within a new generation, and especially in bigger cities, the overall picture is promising – people tend to hold more progressive views, girls can pursue any education or career they want. Unfortunately, it often happens despite the society rather than with the help of it, and representation of women in politics, and in leadership positions is deplorable; and the situation is still far from pretty in more rural areas and traditional households, where the female part of the population can be severely suppressed.
Tradition at the heart of oppression or oppression justified by traditions?
The words “culture” and “tradition” figurate a lot in this commentary, making one question if things like sexism, oppression, and abuse can really be rooted in a nation’s history. While a simple answer does not exist with a topic as complicated, I will go ahead and say no. Although we can observe a certain divergence in the world between countries with a particular (more conservative, and often but not always religious) heritage, on a matter of women, it boils down to how people behave now. Blaming the current alarming situation on the beliefs held by our ancestors is nothing other than delegating responsibility. It allows for the people guilty of these atrocities now to escape liability and obligation, augmented in their toxic ideas. Because the truth is, traditions and culture are indeed, important. However, it doesn’t mean that all of them still have a place to be exercised. They are inalienable parts of our community and development. At the same time, just as we are no longer practicing nomadic lifestyle, ritual sacrifices, and early child marriage – you name it - as we move forward, keeping ancient systems centric to our current ways of living suggests that we haven’t moved anywhere at all; we might as well be living centuries back if our understanding of the world has not changed since then. No country’s tradition is lacking in terrible, outdated, and unpracticable customs, but we learn to move past them; or we transform them and cherish them as a part of ethnic history which in some ways, is a part of who we are. But as Aya herself said in one of her interviews, “Some of them should stay in history textbooks”. It’s a firm hope of mine that in the future, Kazakhstan learns to move past them as well.